ZiAda Heads to Nakuru, Ahead of Nairobi Experience

ZiAda Nakuru POSTER2

On the Mashujaa Day weekend, October 19-20, 2013, ZiAda will celebrate the far God has brought Kenya, and ultimately, the God of all time in the ZiAda Nakuru edition. ZiAda is a collaborative ministry channel comprising of award-winning Christian musicians Adawnage Band, Zidi The Band and Spoken Word poet, Number8. The group will mark its second year of taking the Word to the World through a series of revolutionary musical events intended to spread the love of Jesus Christ to the people of Kenya.

 

In 2012, the team’s inaugural events took place in Mombasa, Nyeri and culminated in Nairobi, attracting audiences of over 3,000 people. This time round, the ZiAda 2013 events will begin in the county of Nakuru with a campus edition at Kabarak University on October 19, followed by ZiAda Nakuru at the CITAM sanctuary on October 20 (See poster details). The planned Nakuru events will act as a precursor to the hugely anticipated climax to the year’s events – ZiAda Nairobi – set for December 14, 2013. 

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It’s Time We Stopped Calling it ‘The Jubilee’ Government

Picture from olivermathenge.wordpress.com

Picture from olivermathenge.wordpress.com

By Cdooh

Hey everyone!! Missed me? It’s been a while since I posted on here, even though I can see that the last post here was mine. I like to think that I’m one of the founders of this blog (things that may one day land in my resume somewhere) I do have what was once described as the most popular post here, Why a Kenyan Revolution will Never Happen. I’m afraid what I said then is even more true today than ever before.

Today, I’d like to put to you something that you may have noticed, or not. Whenever you watch news these days and the government is mentioned it is referred to as “The Jubilee Government” which is very accurate as they control both the executive, the legislature (both houses) and, depending on whom you ask, the judiciary too. I can’t really fault the media for reporting something that is an obvious fact but I think it’s time we stopped referring to them as “the Jubilee Government” and just call them “The Government”

There are two main reasons for this.

One is so that we can get out of the election mind-set; the presidential elections have been over for over 3 months and so have the court cases associated with them. No matter what your feelings are on the matter there’s nothing you can do about it until we have our next elections which are in 2017, so it’s time we put them out of our minds and get back to the business of building our nation with single-minded focus. Vision 2030 is not going to happen if we keep this perpetual election mindset.

Second and perhaps more important in the nearer term, is for the sake of unity. I’ve noticed recently that whenever people in my house talk of the government they say “This Jubilee government this…” and “This Jubilee government that…” Whenever this happens I get the feeling that they don’t really feel like a part of the government, there is an “us and them” mentality.

It’s true that this government was mostly elected by two communities, a tyranny of numbers it has been described as by a political scientist more learned in such matters than me (side note: the phrase ‘tyranny of numbers’ has become a part of our national vocabulary if you’re just hearing those words now you need to leave the rock you’ve been hiding under more often) in my house we mostly voted for the main loser, I voted Martha Karua because I’m rebellious like that. Anyway it doesn’t help the feeling of loss when the government that is supposed to serve you is constantly named by the team that defeated you. I think it subconsciously reminds people who voted that this government may just serve the numbers that voted them in and that’s not a good thing.

I’d like to point out at this point that I don’t know how the government will rule and divide resources, but I’d like to think they’ll be fair with it. Also that the President, Uhuru Kenyatta, is an alumnus of my old school St Mary’s Nairobi – greatness by association.

My mum and other members of the household have begun to refer to certain members of certain tribes as ‘waJubilee’ or just ‘Jubilee’ despite my best efforts to stop them, especially in front of my ten-year old sister who I don’t want to get tribal before she’s even experienced life.

This us versus them thing we have going is not good for the stability of our country. There’s a lot of latent anger out there and I feel that the media’s insistence on calling the government ‘Jubilee’ is only adding to it. We didn’t see post-election coming, except those whose job is to look out for such things like the NSIS (though looking back I should have known there was a clear sign). I think we’re at a very fragile time in our history and we can’t afford to stoke the fire any more than it is now.

I’ll be posting this to my own blog soon. I’d like to hear what you think, feel free to comment below and/or hit me up on twitter (@cdooh).Peace!!!

Special Internet IDs?

By cdooh

 

Last week I read a headline in my Google Reader that had me more than a little worried: Special IDs planned for net user to curb attacks. It immediately had me worried about the potential privacy issues this could bring up. Who would handle these IDs? How would then be issued? What data would be collected and attached to them? How long would that data be stored? How will it be secured? What would it be used for and by whom? Also isn’t there already a way to ID devices on the internet, you know the IP address system?

 

Now I hadn’t read the article yet but already I had a bunch of questions about it? I clicked on the link and quickly browsed the article. I was in class so I quickly saved it for future reading and downloaded the key report mentioned in the article, the Kenya Security Report 2012 by Serianu, an IT services and business consulting firm.

 

So I’ve finally read the article and the report and can finally talk about them with a little bit of knowledge. I think, being a computer science student, I can talk about these things with a little bit of authority.

 

First I’ll start with the report. 32 pages long, and a very obvious way to market Serianu, it provides numbers and statistics on various threats on our country’s internet and computers. For instance it claims that about 80% of IP addresses in Kenya have poor reputation scores because of spam. I won’t argue about the numbers in the report since I can’t really dispute them. However, I have gone over the report myself and have a couple of things to say about it.

 

Firstly, well done to Serianu for actually taking time to come up with report, whatever their motives. I’m a firm believer in data driven legislation when it comes to computers and the internet, and this report, and others like it, can be used to inform the government on exactly how far the law can help in preventing crimes and where it would be over reach.

 

Secondly, at the end of every section they give recommendations on avoiding and preventing various threats. While all very valid I can sum most of them down to just one phrase, “DON’T BE STUPID!”. That phrase if applied in its entirety could probably prevent over 90% of system breaches, hacks and malicious software. Recommendations like use firewalls, patch your system, use secure passwords, update your antivirus regularly and limit the number of people who have access to databases and other files by using privileges all fall under this simple rule.

 

Finally I felt that the report only had one mistake of omission, under the sections talking about spamming and the one of malicious software it fails to mention that one of the main reasons botnets and viruses are so prevalent in Kenya is the fact that a very small percentage of the population uses genuine software. The reasons for this are for another post but every computer admin of any sort worth his salt knows that non-genuine software has the high potential to come with security holes. I use a genuine copy of Windows on my PC and every time I connect to the net it patches and updates itself from Microsoft’s servers, this is not possible with fake Windows. The report should’ve mentioned that the use of counterfeit software was one of the main reasons virus are so wide-spread.

 

Now on to the article in the Business daily. After reading it I found that headline very misleading. The government isn’t issuing ID for net users but rather want to have a local Public Key Infrastructure (PKI). This would enable users of basically insecure public networks (like the internet) to securely and privately exchange data and money through the use of a public and a private Cryptographic key pair that is obtained and shared through a trusted authority. Read more about it here. The government wants to move the process locally to reduce costs to businesses working online. That headline should have been something like “Government makes moves to secure online transactions locally”

 

It would behoove journalists and editors to ensure their headline their articles not to cause sensation but inform.

 

Now to end things on a light note here are two pictures from one of my favourite web-comics xkcd on security that should put things in real perspective for you.

CIA

 

 

Password Strength

 

 

 

Finally, read my other post about the government’s plans to play big brother on the internet here. Peace!!

 

 

Who Will I Vote For

By Alffie

The Kenyan Flag Flying High Photo by/Property of Mutua Matheka

On the 4th of March 2013, Kenya will be heading to the polls. Something that should have happened this year but that’s a discussion for another day and by someone else!

The Presidential aspirants are (at least those I know or heard of):

Raila Odinga, Uhuru Kenyatta, Kalonzo Musyoka, William Ruto, Martha Karua, Charity Ngilu, James ole Kiyiapi, Kingwa Kamencu, George Wajackoyah, Peter Kenneth, Raphael Tuju, Musalia Mudavadi, Cyrus Jirongo, Eugene Wamalwa, Moses Weteng’ula, David Maillu, Omingo Magara, Dennis Nzioka

So, who will I vote for?

This is a question thrown my way quite a number of times.

Before I tell you who I’ll vote for, allow me to clue you in on the criteria I used/I am using to come to a decision.

1. Criminal record – By criminal record here I mean whether the candidate has a history with the law – whether they were found guilty guilty or were/are just accused. Right here a number of the listed candidates fall heavily for me. Since many can’t read between the lines, Uhuru kenyatta & William Ruto are accused of a serious crime. I can’t ignore that. Even if innocent, I can’t imagine a president who will be taking trips to attend court cases every so often. This is wrong on so many levels but let me highlight one. If, for example, an accused individual is made the Safaricom CEO, what would happen? The obvious is confidence in the brand will fall drastically and this has nothing to with whether the individual is guilty or not. Being accuses is enough. In the same way, if the president Elect has been accused of a crime, mind this is a crime against humanity, no other country will have confidence in the country as a whole! Who would blame them really??

Another candidate to fall here is Omingo Magara. Won his seat with irregularities and lost the petition. Winning the petition wouldn’t have made it better by the way. Why would we vote for a candidate who’s accused of winning in a way that is a proven spark for the fire of unrest?!

Charity Ngilu – from KNH scandal to Water Scandal … errm, sorry. She’s out too!

2. Integrity – This is a tricky point seeing that all MPs fail by virtue of them consistently increasing their salaries & non of the candidates have turned down the pay rise. So it boils down to working/in office integrity. Who can & has stepped down because of either poor working conditions, for investigation, diversion from office goals. Moses Wetangula showed a glimpse of this when he stepped down albeit only under pressure to do just that following the Tokyo embassy scandal. Musalia Mudavadi on the other hand did step aside but only partially – stepped down from his Local Government Minister post but not as Deputy PM – following the cemetary scandal. If he had stepped down even from the Deputy PM, it’d have made a better case for integrity. The gold star goes to Martha Karua who even without being pressured but out of the famous “inner voice”, resigned her position as Justice Minister citing “anti-reform forces” cutting down her efforts. Something evident today. In summary, being associated with a scandal automatically rules out an aspirant for me. So Musalia Mudavadi, Moses Wetangula, are out!

3. Track record – past responsibilities. I’m a firm believer in this Confucian Philosophy: “The superior man acts before he speaks, and afterwards speaks according to his action.” so a speech is only good for me if it’s grounded on what you have done which in essence testifies to what you can do. Here I give the Gold star to Peter Kenneth for his work with CDF. Ranked top more than once!

4. Principles/strength of will – this could mean sticking by & taking responsibility of wrong decisions. Let me say it outright. Kalonzo Musyoka fails on this for me. He tries too hard to be neutral. For a president, I can’t take this as a quality. The fact that he has a party called “Wiper”, a mechanism that works on the principle of wavering from one side to the other and his continuous search for another party to hitch his wagon to just goes on to prove he’s an unreliable character. So he’s out!
When it comes to Strength of will, Raila has that. Hate him or love him, you can’t take that away from him. Having experienced Nyayo house of horror, coup – he earns a level of respect from me. But that’s where it ends. I find his seemingly principled stand to be more of being stubborn than being principled. I know I’m walking a fine and blurry line in distinguishing the 2. I think he’s too focused on being the President he forgets he can be just as influential not being one. This blind focus has made him not to take responsibility for his part of the PEV. The least he would do and that would place him as a true political enigma in my book would be for him to just come out and say, “I may have not called for the violence but I did play a role in it and so I’m dedicating my influence in aiding the IDPs resettle and restart their life. I am, in essence, saying I will not run for presidency in the next election ie 2013!” This would earn him respect across the board, I believe. I know his ego can’t allow him to do this … ergo, he’s stubborn and NOT so much principled! So with this, Raila’s out!
Gold star here goes to Martha Karua. After the 2007 elections, she stood by role despite the view that there might have been irregularities. All respect her strength of will and principle on this even though not all see it is having being a right stand. I doubt I need to repeat the point of her stepping down on working principles as Justice Minister.
Point of note here, being principled is more than just talking of being principled. It has a whole lot more to do with actually being principled. This is why I haven’t mentioned Peter Kenneth here. He speaks the good game but I haven’t quite seen him playing it.

Just so we are together, so far who I’m voting for is NOT Uhuru Kenyatta, William Ruto, Raila Odinga, Kalonzo Musyoka, Musalia Mudavadi, Moses Wetangula, Charity Ngilu. That said, they play no further role in my post.

5. Policy understanding – In this I mean the ability to understand and grasp of the policies necessary to govern a country. Again here, Martha Karua has shown me enough to have given her the gold star. Why? How? Well, she has over the years been able to actually contribute to various motions and debates. Her weekly interactions with social media users in a bid to tackle different issues with her #AskMarthaThursdays speaks volumes to me. Given the hype around peter Kenneth’s speech during his launch, I guess I have to address the fact that his speech was issue based. I have to say, Kudos for that. But it’s not convincing to me to bring this out at a speech. Aren’t speeches written by a team? So yeah, that’s not enough for me but it IS a good start. The reason why Martha Karua takes it for me is because she has a grasp of this anywhere anytime! She knows her stuff, simply put!

6. Constitutional knowledge, understanding & desire to implement it as is – Goes without saying that Martha takes it here! And her stepping down as Justice Minister surely speaks of her willingness to see the constitution implemented the right way. I expect Eugene Wamalwa to be knowledgeable being a lawyer but he fails for me in his desire to implement it – lack of it that is! His endorsing Uhuru Kenyatta & William Ruto, suspects of crimes against humanity, doesn’t scream “Trust me to implement the constitution” to me! So, Eugene Wamalwa is out!

7. Education, intelligence, articulate – As far as I’m concerned, education is a basic requirement. Luckily those in the running currently are sorted in that. So we go over to intelligence which has something to do with education but not necessarily defined by it. When I say articulate, I don’t mean when giving a speech because I know many will point me to Peter Kenneth’s speech. That’s not what I mean. I mean the ability to properly express thoughts as they come and especially when they arise. I think Peter Kenneth and Martha Karua are both equal on this criterion. So gold star to both of them.

I have not put policies as a criterion I follow because this is what I believe: “Policies are more or less the same every election so an election is more about who you believe & trust can implement the policies.” Someone can have the most elaborate of policies but if they have no integrity or are not principled to see anything done or to stand by a decision, they are just blowing hot air.

What about the other aspirants you haven’t mentioned or ruled out yet listed in the intro?

Thank you for pointing that out. I have to confess, I pay no attention to these aspirants: Raphael Tuju (because I honestly don’t know what he stands for), Cyrus Jirongo, Kingwa Kamencu (this lady needs to see a doctor! Underwear free Africa?!! Lady, if you have beef with Victoria’s Secret that’s your problem, not Kenya’s or Africa’s, for that matter!!), David Maillu. I honestly don’t think politics is where they belong.

As for Dennis Nzioka, I think he just wants to make a statement for the LGBTI community. That’s not happening, not in Kenya!

The following aspirants I think need to start small, something in the region of Governor: George Wajackoyah, James ole Kiyiapi. Barrack Obama served 3 terms a Senator before being President & even running unsuccessfully for the United States House of Representatives! I’m not going to be ashamed to say that info I got from wikipedia. I hate plagiarism. I think these candidates have something to offer but they need to “mature” in this politics and civil servant-hood before being considered worthy of the role, at least by me.

Time to answer the question, “Who Will You Vote For?”

At this point, it’s clear my top contenders are Martha Karua & Peter Kenneth. But judging by my criteria ranking it’s clear my choice is MARTHA KARUA.

Why not Peter Kenneth? Well, granted, he is an impressive candidate and would be considered and outsider or a new face and voting for will be a change, but isn’t voting for any of these aspirants a change in one way or another? “What about his great CDF management?” I think that’s a GREAT & COMMENDABLE achievement. I however don’t think that qualifies him to be a President. CDF management is a matter of getting money and ensuring it’s used well right? That, to me, is stellar qualification for a Finance Minister. A president handles policies, requires principles, strong will, firm hand – traits he falls behind Martha Karua by a mile or 10! Let me put it this way, if the Migigngo saga pops up again, I trust Martha Karua to be firmer in position than Peter Kenneth. He says many nice things hardly takes stands or positions that might be viewed radical or controversial. To be fair, Martha Karua leaves a lot to be desired in light of the CDF issue.

That said, A Karua – Kenneth presidency would be a winning ticket for me! But since Peter Kenneth has launched his solo ticket and we all know Martha Karua is too principled and in this case justifiably stubborn to even consider a coalition, this won’t happen!

So there you have it, my answer. And for the record, this is Just One Man’s Opinion (or #JOMO for those of you who prefer social media lingo or hashtag). Feel free to counter my points.

As a sidenote: “Who will you vote for?” is a question that assumes I’m voting! If you are to ask this question, I suggest you first ask, “Will you be voting come next election?” Many are still hurting and fighting guilt over voting the last time and still need to be convinced to vote. And saying “Voting is your right!” is, forgive my language, a stupid and insensitive reason to give someone who was told that exact thing that last time and it led to the violence. Be sensitive to their doubts and hurts. To be honest, I vowed never to vote again after last election, which happened to be my first time voting by the way, and I’m still not entirely convinced I should vote! Mainly because non of the so-called leaders who are still the same names put out there to be voted back in have taken a hint of responsibility for what happened.. 5 years later!! – and I’m not talking about “lip-service”. I’m talking ACTION. Anything less means nothing! And I’m sure very many are probably where I am.

Objectivity demands that I direct you to other posts that may be taking a different view so … I found this to be an interesting take on the aspirants “Tunawesmake” By moderatekenyan (http://moderatekenyan.wordpress.com/2012/11/04/tunawesmake/)

For the record, the Presidential Debate is a good idea but like I said, they’ll be all prepared with points prepared by teams so don’t use it as the only yard stick – consider it too though because I doubt all teams will be that well prepared. But look for how articulate they’ll be.

Make sure you pick your choice objectively.

Alffie is my name.

And I don’t particularly like politics!

 

I Didn’t Stop Them

By Alffie

I received their hate-texts,
heard their hate-speeches,
and their “anti-them” war cries
Their “they don’t belong here”
and “this land is ours” talks..

But I didn’t stop them!

I heard them talk behind their backs,
plotting and planning to chase them away
Not gently but by force where necessary
Get them going by any means –
on foot, donkey-cart or the back of cargo trucks

But I didn’t stop them!

I saw them chase them
from their homes and their farms
Robbing them of their property and of their land
But perhaps most traumatizing and devastating
Was robbing them of their peace of mind

But I didn’t stop them!

I saw them raise their machetes
Even saw arrows,
I saw them carry kerosene,
matchsticks, torches
Arson was their agenda

But I didn’t stop them!

I may not have joined them
But I might as well have,
Evil prevailed
Because this so-called “good man”
did nothing, didn’t even say anything!

But now I’m guilty of another crime
Forgetting them that I did not defend
Blood stained hands masked by time
Another case of out of sight of mind
I didn’t stop them then
And I’m not helping the affected now!

But I will or at least try to
Speak up and help now!
And for my part then
I am sorry now!
What I let happen back then
I can’t let happen again now
or ever!

The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing. Edmund Burke

Until the “leaders” take responsibility for their role in the 2007/2008 PEV, I have no reason to take them seriously! We all have to take responsibility! And not just take responsibility in word but also in deed!

Friend Zone – A Guys Guide To

What is a “Friend zone” (n)? This is the phrase (I have no idea who should get credit for coining it) that describes the point of the relationship between a male and a female that offers no progression beyond what is – ‘just friends!’ 

And so by extension and association, to “Friend zone” (v) is the act of putting one into this ‘box’ of ‘just friends!’ 

Friend zoning can be very frustrating and deflating, especially if the party being friend zoned was hopeful of ‘something more’. To the party ‘friend zoning’, I assume it easier to take in. I, however, doubt it’s just that easy.

This guide is from the male’s perspective so it may not be applicable for the females and is by no means definitive. All of the points mentioned here are all from experience – not just mine, but of many guys. You could view it as a preemptive approach to being ‘friend zoned’. Like they say, There are many ways to kill a rat – I subscribe to the method of making sure the rat is not born! 

So here goes – Friend zone – A Guy’s Guide To 

Be nice, be very nice

I could end this guide with just this one rule as all the others actually branch from this but I suppose I need to expound on it. 

You’ve heard it all before that ladies like nice guys, that’s always on their checklist. Truth is, they don’t like nice guys as partners … as husbands and best friends … Yes, just not boyfriends – this is a preserve of the ‘bad boy’. How they expect the bad boys to somehow end up being ‘nice guys’ once they are married is a mystery. Remember the line, “I can change him”? Well, we all know how that turns out.

 I have a theory on this, I think they prefer “bad boys” because ‘consistent disappointment is easier to handle than the occasional ones’ that nice guys come with, no matter how minute they maybe. Nice guys present them with a high standard that once they subscribe to, even a little tardiness will come off as a colossal disappointment. Nice guys are, more often than not, reliable and hence the slightest whiff of “disappointment” is cataclysmic by comparison. So you get them loving the ‘bad boys’ through the hurts and love they do. “Mr. Wrong” by Mary J. Blige ft Drake shows just how much they hold on, despite their knowing how wrong it is.

Being “Nice, very nice” will inevitably put you in the friend zone – guess who they’ll run to when they are in the hurting phase of her relationship? Preemptive strike One!

 Make the lady’s folks (brothers, sisters even parents) like you

As you can tell, this is only possible if you are “Nice, very nice” and genuinely so. By genuine I mean actually having genuine concern about her well-being. Being in good terms with her folks all but guarantees that she’ll friend zone you. Going against the folks is a mark of independence so as much as she may like you, the fact that her folks like you, kind of forces her not to consider you. Preemptive strike Two!

Her boyfriend should be your friend too … so much he considers you “safe” to hang out with her. This is a hard one and is advisable that you don’t go making it happen. If it happens, flow with it. If not, leave it at that. Point is you being a comfortable enough friend to her that she can mention you to him and he doesn’t get worried. This is not only a preemptive strike but safety net for you – you don’t want to be stabbed.

 Always be there for her, check up on her dating… how she’s doing, they are doing… be a good listener. – “Always” is a big word but it only means whenever you can, you be there for her when she calls on you. Especially in her low moments. Hang out, movies, coffee and stuff doesn’t hurt. This is just being “Nice, very nice” in detail. She can’t consider, at least not usually, you as more than ‘just a friend’ when you do all this. Preemptive strike Four!

WARNING:

 1. As much as she wouldn’t go out with you, she won’t take you going out with another quite well. She may become hostile to your girlfriend but maybe she’ll like her. No way of predicting this – just prep for both the best and worst.

 2. Never ever say you like them IN ANY WAY, SHAPE OR FORM. If she were a status update, don’t like it! Say you “don’t dislike” … something just not that you like her. That will take you from ‘friend zone’ to outcast … enemy territory even!

 NOTE:

 The more perceptive of you will have picked up that this is another way of outlining what NOT to do if you do NOT want to be ‘Friend zoned’. So, take it how you see fit for you. This is not an exhaustive list, just what the ‘experiences’ common to me.

 An excerpt from an upcoming book, “A Guy’s Guide To Life” by EveryGuy for Everyguy … available soon … in your mind! ha!

Utopia That Does Not Exist?

By littleGiniK

I was once talking a walk with two male colleagues going for lunch. The cafeteria happens to be quite some distance away from the office. I was carrying my handbag, the laptop and heavy books, while my colleagues had their hands in their pockets. At some point I stopped and asked them how they could possibly be walking by my side and not offer any help. One of them was quick to retort, “You are the ones fighting for gender equality, why should I help you?” We got into a long argument about gender equality. Suffice it to say that he did not offer his help, at least the other colleague offered to carry the laptop.

This incident came to my mind last week when there was heated argument on twitter about whether it was right for a woman to support a man, following the infamous story of a woman who was found dead in her apartment and who it is said had been involved with a well known former TV anchor.

This debate had me thinking a lot about gender equality. This expression can be quite misleading. I like to think that gender equality refers to equality of dignity and opportunity between men and women and especially equality to participate fully in public life, political, professional and social sphere. Let’s face it, men and women cannot be equal in their respective sexual nature, they are quite different. They are not equal but complementary. There should therefore be no question as to which of the sexes is superior. One is either a woman or man by birth. In each case that person will be superior who manages to develop the characteristic virtues of his or her own sex overcoming the defects which are considered peculiar to the same sex.

A man has always been expected to provide and protect, a woman to care for others. A man is expected to be strong, brave, sporty, a woman gentle, tender, feminine, modest. A man has more muscle, a woman more heart. There are things a man will do and get away with even though they may not be so good. If the same things were done by a woman, she will come off looking worse. A man is expected to provide and support his family and a woman to care and nurture hers. The constant bickering between the sexes has resulted in them seeing each other as opposition rather than complementarity. This has led as, Cormac Burke in his book “Man and Values” states, to a disruptive feminism or “masculinism” obsessed with a struggle for power which tends to reduce all aspects of men-women relationships to opposition.

It is not uncommon therefore to see men fight with women to get in or out of a bus, or a man being ‘kept’ by a woman. On the other hand, women have become so defensive that any affront from a man is believed by them to be a show of superiority of sex. There is no better demonstration of this than on our roads. It has also led to an uncomfortable situation where men refer to all women as ‘ladies’ because they’re afraid the word “woman’ may offend.

While it is commendable that feminist movements have endeavoured to correct the many abuses of preceding centuries, it must be noted that equality cannot be right down to every aspect that concerns men and women. The differences between the two sexes should complement, create a harmony, and not compete. Which man would appreciate a woman who had a moustache and hairy legs? And which woman would respect a man who does not show a certain strength, the capacity to face difficulties in a positive way, initiative especially of taking full responsibility of his family? A man can constantly find inspiration in what is feminine; a woman in what is masculine.

A world that does not encourage men to be more masculine and women to be more feminine is a poorer place for growing up in, for learning to be human . C. Burke.

* I attribute the title of this post to one of my followers.